This was an unplanned post. I had lunch with a friend a few weeks ago and he made some comments that I’ve been thinking about for weeks.
My friend is a therapist and as long as I have known him he has been taking trips and vacations to exotic places. He’s been anywhere and everywhere.
I had not seen him for about 6 months and I asked him about his latest trips. What he had to say seems to have hit me as a great truth but its one I had never thought of.
He told me that he had just returned from a trip to see his parents. He told me that he had not been on a vacation type of trip for over a year.
My friend explained that between birth and as late as 25 years old your parents take care of you and take you on trips and you are their center of attention. From 25 through about 50 years you do your own thing enjoying life and go on trips for your own pleasure and you and your family/job are your center of attention. Then in middle age you end up taking trips to see your parents as their health is failing and they become your center of attention.
During this last stage people often end up either moving out and moving in with their parents again to take care of them in their old age. Another option is that your parents move out and move in with you instead.
Over the last few weeks I’ve noticed that a number of my friends who are in their middle age are experiencing the exact same situation as my therapist friend.
If you have not taken some time to think or plan for this situation then I would suggest you at least think about it.
If you are a young person, enjoy yourself and make the best of things. When your time comes to lend your parents a helping hand you’ll know that you have had your time and for 5 years or so you’ll be busy with your parents in one way or another.
You’ll be giving back for all the support and love you got from your parents. They will surely appreciate it more than you’ll know until you yourself enjoy the same thing from your kids one day.

